There is something I’ve done that I feel like has set me up for failure, when I’ve tried to do politics with men. I have a terrible masochistic instinct to self-flagellate in public. I think subconsciously I think that if I do it I will help show the path toward change; that I changed for the better and hey, you can too! But, it doesn’t really work that way. Sexist men aren’t inspired to act because some woman helps degrade herself further as a way of trying to humanize herself in their eyes. That is, point blank, not a tool that works. And I have the bruises to prove it.